What a weekend.

Pet and I had a pretty busy weekend not only with our play but with our personal lives. You have no idea how hard it is to stay in character of mistress when you are fluttering about between dance recitals, other activities and then yard work.

I'm rather put out that we didn't manage to keep the house clean during the process so while i will probably do some of the cleaning, pet has requested the special undies he wears when in Chasity be washed so I will throw a few loads in, but think that Pet will need to "do a few items as well" It's not fair that mistress was out working for a few hours yesterday and he didn't even manage to pick up the toys off the floor. or even organize the children to do it.

Any way housekeeping aside it was a fun weekend with a really hot session in bed Saturday night, pet and I while not penetrating anything had managed to work ourselves up. Our talk itself was rather entertaining as we let our imaginations and fantasy take us on a ride.

My pet has created a list of things to do.. Someone call this topping from the bottom, but it's more a helpful list then anything i think, sometimes I think pet worries to much about what his mistress will think and chooses to go light on her. Pet needs to stop playing that game and worry more about not having his needs met as his sub. Of course as his mistress I will choose which i do and what i don't and when.. and of course anything that meets a need of mine will be done much more often then anything ;)

Yesterday I think my pet was a little apprehensive, we started our session with him being locking into place with a chain to the ceiling attached to the back loop on his belt. i placed a large dildo up his ass, it was easy on him though as it wasn't hard and almost jelly like. he liked it though. I had cuffed his hands to the chain above his head, once they were secure i placed the key to his chastity belt over the the lock.. so it dangled I then went and showered. leaving him there was fabulous it was rather hot watching him squirm, although next time I think I will go through the added trouble of using the T-bar again.. I found it was much to easy on him this time. I don't think pet was all into it yesterday but I was and that's really what matters. I let him out for a bit of a breather from his belt. It wasn't a true release though as he wasn't allowed to come. Instead I let him out.. rubbed him a little and laughed at his plight that if he came he would be in serious trouble.

I seem to be a little all over the place today, I think i will blame it on so much to say and.. and d other obligations other then being just my pets mistress. it's sometimes extremely difficult to wear all the hats I wear and still do everything well. This blog of course isn't just about the activities but feelings, thoughts and all other things that are about the relationship of pet and I... Like all things it is never just about the sex unless it actually is.. in which case it's just fun.. ;) but how often does that really happen?

It is okay for it to be just about the sex some days, but that gets fully bland and boring if there was nothing else to it. unless of course it is a F.buddy that only come around occasionally. but in a relationship it's always more and you will all most likely hear about it all.

This Mistress thinks that any Slave worth his weight would rather have one that cares more about the feelings and emotions then just the sex anyway although the sex still has to be good and you can't stop halfway through a scene or scenario to talk about feelings it kills the mood and just sucks... Save the talking for after the rest period, or before it even starts and let the scene playout how it's supposed to...

Journey so far

As I have stated before this is all still relatively new, I never thought i was a mistress I always thought i was the sub, however as time has gone on I've realised I'm not so much the Sub as I thought..

I like the power, I like making him stand chain hanging from the ceiling, his hands cuffed to it. I like strapping him down to the "bench" as we call it and hitting him with the strap or pegging him, him begging for more.

The power I feel is remarkable and one that I enjoy. I never thought I would. They always say that Dom/sub relationships are more about the sub.. and that is true The Dom does more work, takes more time to prepare must plan the scenarios but there is also something in it for the Dom too otherwise none of us would be doing it .. power,pleasure and a knowing that as long as we keep our Subs best int rest at heart they will love us for it.

This journey has been a slow process starting with the simple act of pegging, slowly but surly my Sub has wiggled himself into the position he has wanted to be in. over the course of 10 years slow yes but when we started this journey I was as vanilla as they came.

We have progressed a lot in this journey we now employ not only pegging but a punishment/Reward system, Chasity and many other things that i never dreamed of.

I'm still not sure where to start in our tale as it's so much back story so maybe I'll start from this point on and if you have questions about the past you can always ask and i may or may not tell depending.

The now is simple we bought a Neosteel belt awhile ago and that is now currently on him. It has been on for the last 5 days and I'm not sure when he'll be out. We have had a proper adjustment period and the belt is comfortable for him. He is also able to do all the proper hygiene things that he needs to. I've been enjoying his time in the belt although he still needs to remember his duties. I've been keeping him rather hyped up so to speak and he's been talking about periods of high sexual need which is laughed at by me since I have no immediate plans of letting him out.
Especially when he forgets to do something on his list of duties. Today for instance he was to empty the dishwasher and put the dirty dishes in.. otherwise there will be piles and we have a meeting here at the house tonight.. now i must do it so everything can be accomplished in time. This is annoying and makes me a little angry there will be some sort of punishment for this.. I can't undo him from his belt right now for a proper spanking so I think it will be a case of locked butt plug (the largest we have) or something equaling that will first bring him pleasure but the length of time will make it a punishment.

Our contract for our Mistress/Sub relationship is coming to an end and we will be doing a new one I'm trying to think of which duties I think he should have on there as they seem to span a 6-8 month period of time. He is the breadwinner in the home so I don't think it is fair he does all the house work but man is it tempting. LOL
Think I'm going to leave it at that thought.
All for this one.
Mistress Ayden

First Blog

I'm not sure what all will go into this. I'm sure both regular life and my life as my husbands keyholder and mistress will pop up...

I'm sure I will have those that want to read for interest, others that want to read to get off and others that will read thinking they can get to me.. only one of those i feel is valid and that is the interest.

As of right now I'm a one man mistress. whether that changes or not is something my husband/sub and I will decide eventually.

I'm writing this mostly for his and My benefit although i will try to include good sources of information as needed. Please don't email me saying we're sick, or twisted. we aren't either of those we are however a loving, committed couple who if you passed us on the street would never know that he wears full metal underware and that i hold his key, or that in the privacy of our own bedroom when the house is quiet he could be found tied to a bed getting a spanking or pegging or maybe just a gentle session of making love.

This first blog is more an introduction, a warning and to make things clear. There are so many people that will look at this in shock, or perhaps in admiration of the relationship my DH/Sub and I have. I am his Mistresswife and we are happy in how our relationship works. We are newer to it but this will hopefully catalogue the journey

An intro to us is simple we are a younger couple late twenties, with a young family, we got into this gradually and finally into the Chasity in the last year. we are normal as normal can be when not in the bedroom, mild mannered young parents living in the suburbs and enjoying life.

I warn you there will be Graphic content in my blogs as well as information on many sexual and non sexual pursuit's but if you are a delicate reader you may not wish to read anymore...